The Brain Under Pressure
During big feelings, children aren’t being difficult their brains are overwhelmed. The thinking part of the brain isn’t fully available yet, which makes it hard to listen or calm down.
Understanding this helps adults respond with patience instead of frustration.
Connection Before Correction
During big feelings, children need connection before they’re ready for guidance or correction. Calm presence, empathy, and reassurance help children feel safe.
When children feel understood, their bodies begin to settle, and learning can happen over time.
When Big Feelings Repeat
One big feeling is a moment.
When big feelings repeat, they can give us clues about what support a child may need. Looking at patterns over time helps adults respond with care and intention.
Big feelings don’t need to be fixed; they need to be supported over time.
We help children notice and name emotions
We teach simple calming tools
We use play, stories, and visuals
We support caregivers with language and guidance